Personality comparison

Do opposites attract or do relationships work best with people like us?

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Published on Thu, 05/08/2014 - 11:45 by Bill McAneny

Swan love

Well yes and no, and no and yes! There has been a huge rise on online dating sites and many are now offering personality “tests” for ‘compatibility,’ which always worries me. Since time began people have been attracted to someone for a whole variety of reasons, many of them illogical (and rightly so) and, like buying a property, you often don’t know what you want until you see it and then any previous preconceptions get rationalised away: 

Yeah OK I know she’s not what I originally thought would be my type but she’s just so positive. 

But you didn’t have ‘positive’ in your ‘list of requirements.

Well I do now.

INFP vs ISFP: savouring new possibilities vs savouring new experiences

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Published on Fri, 02/07/2014 - 09:45 by Bill McAneny

Golden Air​People often confuse the INFP and the ISFP, as they are both quiet, laid back, gentle enigmas. They are also both intensely private inhabiting their own internal worlds but there is a major difference: INFPs are future oriented dreamers who enjoy flights of fancy and seeing many possibilities while ISFPs prefer to stop and savour the sensory, real experiences of the moment to the max. Neither are forthcoming types, both love the new, both dislike structure or being controlled, however the INFP will look up and dream big dreams and the ISFP will look down, immersing themselves in actual experiences.

These are subtle differences but they help us better understand the two character types, which, paradoxically, are often the most misunderstood. Both are astute observers of life, caring and loyal: yet they experience the world in very different ways with the INFP wanting to see way beyond the here and now and the ISFP wanting to remain there until their need for experience is satiated and they move onto the next, new sensory experience.

The power of difference: Sylvester Stallone vs. Robert De Niro

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Published on Fri, 01/17/2014 - 09:49 by Bill McAneny

With actors it’s often difficult to get know the real person behind the characters they play. However the endless promotion of the new film ‘The Grudge’ has given us the chance to really get to know Sylvester Stallone and Robert De Niro as people. Watching them together actually helps as we can see that Sly clearly takes the lead whereas Bob is happy to sit back and let him. Sly uses the interview as an opportunity to entertain and engage, Bob looks as if he’d rather be at home, but is polite, serious and factual. In this clip Bob only really answers a question because Charlie Stayt pushes it and of course he answers politely and factually and when he is finished Sly says straight to camera: “Did you miss me?”

Life is a people game, and a contact sport

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Published on Fri, 01/10/2014 - 16:48 by Bill McAneny

Water DropIn business, as in life, success often depends about the quality of the interactions we have. Understanding ourselves is a great first step but ultimately it is about understanding ourselves in relation to other people and of course getting to better understand them. Our behaviour has an impact and that impact has a consequence: the impact is how we leave people feeling and the consequence is what occurs as a result of that impact. I once asked an SVP of a large energy company how his people saw him (I had already asked): “A livewire, a bit of a joker who loves the joust, they love me,” he said. Nope. So I told him: “They say you’re a sarcastic, self-indulgent bully who makes a joke of everything.” So we can see our SVP was aware of his behaviour but he viewed it from the standpoint of himself, rather than those on the receiving end. 

The logical, complex, relentless visionary: ENTJ vs INTJ, loudly vs quietly

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Published on Wed, 10/02/2013 - 08:56 by Bill McAneny

ENTJ vs. INTJAt face value the ENTJ and the INTJ are very similar. Both types have a love of complexity, both are intensely logical and both have a relentless, restless drive to change things, make them better and for closure. However the E vs I dichotomy makes such a difference and means they tend to inhabit different worlds.

The ENTJ inhabits the external world of people and situations, drawing energy from interactions and will love being loud, visible and will have (extremely strong) opinions on almost every subject.

The INTJ inhabits the internal world, detached and independent of thought and action, and they tend to keep it all inside until they are ready. Their need for privacy and independence means they will be quite reclusive, working behind the scenes to reflect, build and solve problems. The ENTJ is far more ‘out there’ loving the verbal sparring and robust debate and keen to make their point. Don’t ask the views of an ENTJ unless you are prepared for a bone-jarring honesty.

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